Honesty in love and sexuality...
Why women are afraid of the word 'date'? And why cant a guy come over to a girl's house to pick her up for a movie/pub/dinner etc. I feel that Indians (men & women) are not honest about their feelings on love and sexuality...I believe this opinion of mine holds true to the majority of the urban population.Now, why did I mention just women in the first sentence of this post? Why not men...well...I guess its quite obvious that its the men who are expected to be proactive in such things...but why? Why cant some girl walk upto a guy and ask him out? Hehe...too progressive eh...maybe...but the guy will be so surprised that he just might say yes!! So, girls...take that as a tip! ;)
Nowadays, its pretty cool I guess...some women are coming out of their shell...some are already in the second generation of being outta that same shell. That's cool...but this doesn't apply throughout the length, breadth, height or whatever of the spectrum of Indian urban women. As for the men, its simple...they are all the same...promiscuous creatures...if some claim they never had some "thoughts", they are plain hypocrites!!
I guess even in the developed west, some of the taboos of the east hold...but then it boils down to a question of the individuals personality...if the person is shy, it doesn't matter whether its the east or the west...but then, in the east, are we not giving too much attention to the needs of the society...which is influenced by peer pressure and the burgeoning population? Cannot someone exist at peace with the society and yet lead a life of owns own rules and thought?? C'mon...no one will crucify or burn you at the stake!! Damn invisible walls...
This brings me to an interesting point...those people, who are thus restricted live out their fantasies and wishes through the www. Some are just plain honest...and some exceed the line. But for the honest ones, it should not be so tough to take that step in real life...why is it so hard? Interestingly nowadays, its so easy to fall in love online...maybe I should blog about this sometime later...
Anyways, guys and gals...please be honest. It will make you better people...I can tell you that for sure!! ;)
posted by Maharaj at 10/22/2005 02:54:00 PM
7 Comments:
Hey !!! :) interesting post i say!
rather- interesting topic.. but dude.. India these days soo ain't the India we've known.. actually the whole of ur 'East'.. trust me.. there's more 'coming out of the shell' that you could have bargained for...
n also - about ppl being open or taking the step- so much depends on allowable circumstances or oppurtunities. right?
but yeah.. your import is a good one.. :)
Yes...i did try to make it clear that its no longer the olden days...maybe i should have been more explicit...anyways, people gotta be more honest...more open. Yes...the more coming outta shell...well, again, it depends on the individuals personality...some might like the western kinda partner...some the east...some a cool mix...it depends.
My point is...whoever it is that we are looking for, they are around...we will see them...but no invisible wall should stop us from expressing our feelings. Thats it.
Exactly...so, we come back to the same point dont we? the honest are brave...and vice versa i suppose...
Hmm
Dude when the concept of sexuality comes into picture,atleast in countries like india--Culture,family values and other things also comes into play ,rather than being honest.
Being honest doesnt mean you have to go about doing whatever you feel,being honest means,you justify and bring it to deeds only if you feel it isright for you and for the people around.
I would rather,being honest actually means being honest to your culture,rather than bring on the ure you have.
THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP!!!
Cool...your opinion. What makes me wonder is whether a person will be honest once he falls for another person who is suited to his or her culture or whatever that is called.
What then...!! Will the person have the guts to go and ask the other person out or something? This is what i was questioning...
Not cultural pressure...but the pressure of the damn society which is sorta connected with culture...but not in the most direct way.
well ,my answer for the question whteher or not he would go forwards with his instincts----is a big NO.
well initially whether or not success would hit--the thought stops him..and then other facts come into his mind.
I woldnt say sitting back is smart...but it is smart if you can wait for the right moment instead of screwin things up now.
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