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Have you ever felt this after you meet some really long lost friend after a really long time..."How he has changed so much...like a totally new person!"
Well...some people consider that to be bad...for instance, when someone returns from the US after a stint of say 2-3 years, he/she is bound to have caught on a little bit of that american accent in their speech...its ok...it should not let one judge that person with false impressions. I have seen many people flaying their mates who are back home because of their accent..."peter english" they say...grow up guys. And even the people who are coming back...they are conscious of their actions...the words they speak...they are afraid of how society will respect their change and hence they put themselves through much trouble to get back their old self. Cmon...dont put yourselves through so much trouble. There is much more to a person than the exterior which your senses can directly detect...so, get their and your mind into the act...and marvel...!!
In my opinion, people dont change completely. They dont lose any of their qualities...to be replaced by other ones. The old qualities and feelings are still there...amidst newer qualities.
Adding many new factes over the old ones...old ones never disappear...refined they are if you will...
Common sense says you cant express two emotions at a time...2 facets at a time...so, the frequency of your old self coming out is lesser...that doesnt mean that the person has totally changed at that sample time...just that the new person has more to display...more to express... not possible to express all (including what you knew of the person) at the same time.
Therfore, lemme draw a crude analogy to make things more clear. I think a persons personality is like a box full of raffle tickets...
You enter the fair, go staraight to the raffle stall, get your own ticket and throw it in along with the rest. Initially there are very few tickets inside. Then as time goes on, more tickets are placed inside for the draw. Meanwhile, you are going on with your life...you enjoy the roller coaster ride...you let your kids ride the ferris wheel...you pose with the rubber clown at the gate because his nose was big, round and red...the kids loved it!! The day draws to a close. Time for the raffle...and no surprises that your ticket is not among the winning numbers.
Similarly, you know the person when you are buying the raffle tickets and adding them into the box. You might buy a thousand tickets...but with a sufficient period of time between two meetings, much could have happened to change that persons personality. So, you are all expectant to win the raffle...you are crossing your fingers...jumping with excitement making sounds like "ooo...ooo..ooo..yyyeeee...ooo". Chances are that you will go home disappointed. But not to worry, your tickets are still in the box. They were not lost...they are still there.
Therefore, what i have learnt is...to never expect people not to change. And those who have changed, they usually almost always retain a little bit of their past...which is what brought you guys togethers in the first place. So, cherish it and let life go on! :)
Well...some people consider that to be bad...for instance, when someone returns from the US after a stint of say 2-3 years, he/she is bound to have caught on a little bit of that american accent in their speech...its ok...it should not let one judge that person with false impressions. I have seen many people flaying their mates who are back home because of their accent..."peter english" they say...grow up guys. And even the people who are coming back...they are conscious of their actions...the words they speak...they are afraid of how society will respect their change and hence they put themselves through much trouble to get back their old self. Cmon...dont put yourselves through so much trouble. There is much more to a person than the exterior which your senses can directly detect...so, get their and your mind into the act...and marvel...!!
In my opinion, people dont change completely. They dont lose any of their qualities...to be replaced by other ones. The old qualities and feelings are still there...amidst newer qualities.
Adding many new factes over the old ones...old ones never disappear...refined they are if you will...
Common sense says you cant express two emotions at a time...2 facets at a time...so, the frequency of your old self coming out is lesser...that doesnt mean that the person has totally changed at that sample time...just that the new person has more to display...more to express... not possible to express all (including what you knew of the person) at the same time.
Therfore, lemme draw a crude analogy to make things more clear. I think a persons personality is like a box full of raffle tickets...
You enter the fair, go staraight to the raffle stall, get your own ticket and throw it in along with the rest. Initially there are very few tickets inside. Then as time goes on, more tickets are placed inside for the draw. Meanwhile, you are going on with your life...you enjoy the roller coaster ride...you let your kids ride the ferris wheel...you pose with the rubber clown at the gate because his nose was big, round and red...the kids loved it!! The day draws to a close. Time for the raffle...and no surprises that your ticket is not among the winning numbers.
Similarly, you know the person when you are buying the raffle tickets and adding them into the box. You might buy a thousand tickets...but with a sufficient period of time between two meetings, much could have happened to change that persons personality. So, you are all expectant to win the raffle...you are crossing your fingers...jumping with excitement making sounds like "ooo...ooo..ooo..yyyeeee...ooo". Chances are that you will go home disappointed. But not to worry, your tickets are still in the box. They were not lost...they are still there.
Therefore, what i have learnt is...to never expect people not to change. And those who have changed, they usually almost always retain a little bit of their past...which is what brought you guys togethers in the first place. So, cherish it and let life go on! :)
posted by Maharaj at 8/09/2005 04:40:00 AM
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